Sexy Vs. Slutty: How Men Differentiate

 Lifechanger and Master Matchmaker Steve Ward says "There are many women everywhere who waste a lot of time and money to look good for us. Apparently, many women can't tell the difference between what we consider sexy and what we consider slutty."

Here's the problem: men aren't helping you make the distinction any easier. Why? Because at the end of the night, it really doesn't matter. Most men take what they can get.

Bringing a woman home to meet the parents is very different from taking a woman home to bed. We've been taught never to take a slutty woman seriously. This is all just a matter of perception, because sometimes even the sluttiest-looking women turn out to be quite prudish.

Here's what looking slutty means to most men like me: It says, "I don't have much self-respect and have to expose myself in order to attract a man. Value me for my appearance and worry about my character and personality traits later (if at all)."

Slutty is trying too hard. Sexy is natural. Slutty is over-exposure. Sexy is just enough. Women can be sexy and sophisticated, classy and intelligent: relationship-worthy. Slutty can not.

Sexy can actually be high maintenance or low maintenance. Some of the sexiest outfits I've ever seen on a woman consisted of a camisole top and yoga pants, a cotton spring dress or even a turtleneck top. Sexy is confident, fun and approachable. Let's face it; a man can be attracted to a light pole. It's not the clothes that make a woman sexy. Nor is it the makeup, hair, shoes or accessories. It's an attitude. It's a look. It's a demeanor.
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5 Things You Don't Know About Bachelor Ben Flajnik

Ben Flajnik is ready to fall in love again!

As the 29-year-old Sonoma, Calif., winemaker dusts himself off after being jilted by The Bachelorette's Ashley Hebertand prepares to begin his own search for love on ABC, Us Weekly uncovers five fun facts about Flajnik.

1. He harbors no ill will toward ex Hebert -- really! Though the dental grad made Flajnik get down on one knee and propose, knowing full well she'd choose J.P. Rosenbauminstead, Flajnik says he's grateful for her dismissal. "I had genuine feelings for Ashley," he has said, crediting her with helping him overcome issues surrounding his father's death. "I worked through a lot of stuff on my own. I think my self-discovery was something I didn't expect. Ashley was there helping me through all that."

2. Flajnik is a genuine Renaissance man. Studying music production at the University of Arizona, ABC's newest Bachelor later founded a successful internet company, but found his true calling in 2008 when he established Envolve Winery with two pals in Sonoma, Calif. When he's not stomping grapes at the office, Flajnik likes to go crab fishing, sailing, golfing and sing in a tribute band.

3. He may have wined and dined Jennifer Love Hewitt, but don't expect Flajnik to go all Hollywood. "She's a nice girl, but...after this is all said and done, I want to go back to Northern California to my normal life," he has said, adding that the actress pursued him over the summer. "Ending up with a Hollywood celebrity is not something I ever imagined doing."

4. A member of the Delta Beta Chapter of the Beta Theta Pi fraternity, Flajnik was a party animal during his college days. In 2003, Flanik was reportedly busted by campus police for underage drinking at a house party. "I understand that they're doing their job and trying to keep people safe, but the fact there were 50 some odd police officers here to break up one little college party is a little ridiculous," Flajnik told the KOLD local news at the time.

5. His secret nickname is "Storm Horse." A fan of the San Diego Chargers football team, Flajnik told San Diego's 91X radio station he goes incognito at team tailgate parties with other fans dubbed the "Frightening Lightening" crew using the pseudonym.

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